By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction

Comments:

Hi dude,

I have to tell you, your book has astounded me. Since I got divorced 2 1/2 years ago, I've had one date, with a girl who told me that she used to weigh 300 pounds before her tummy tuck surgery, and that her father was the head of the Iranian Mafia here in Oklahoma (I shit you not)

In other words, I've been a total chump with women. Then I read your book at 3am Saturday night, and then went to a bridal show the next day.  I used one of your push-pull technique with some guy's girlfriend, and she kept hanging out with me, bringing me chocolate-covered strawberries, etc. until her boyfriend got pissed and led her away.  Later that night we all went to dinner and I ended up sitting next to a smoking runway model from the fashion show.  I used your techniques again, and had her laughing at my jokes, touching my arm and leg, eating off my plate, feeding me her food, etc.  I even ordered her to pay me 10 cents for the French fry she stole, and she immediately dug into her purse and gave me a quarter.  I went home feeling like superman. This chick was 24 years old, thin, gorgeous. I'm a 30 year old, 245 lb.,glasses-wearing dude who lives in a one room apartment.

I was saying really nice things to these chicks, compliments that I never would have said before because I was afraid of being "too nice."  Then I'd turn around and say something to completely undermine the compliment. I never would have done this before in fear that I'd look like a jerk.

One of my friends was there, a nerdy looking, effeminate computer geek who seems to have a new hot girlfriend every week.

I watched him talk to a girl, and he was very animated and had a big smile on his face as he talked to her, but he had his arms crossed and his body turned away from her. Just like in the book. Then he changed to an open posture. Then back.

I tell you, your book has explained every damned question I've ever had about women, about friends who where good with girls, and about my own lameness.  Thank you so much.  It's almost scary to think of how good I'm going to be when I've re-read the book several times and mastered the techniques.  I read it again today and saw several more things that I could have done even better.

I from Oklahoma

My Comments: 

Big round of applause for you bro. I can tell you're starting to understand the ins-and-outs of making women tick.

"I even ordered her to pay me 10 cents for the French fry she stole, and she immediately dug into her purse and give me a quarter. I went home feeling like superman."

Great stuff man. Love it. Hilarious. This also reinforced to her that you're a Prize she has to earn.

Many male-female interactions go down like this: Boy meets girl. Girl is charmed by Boy. Boy poops his pants in excitement that girl likes him and, then, starts acting like a dilapidated ejaculate.

Not you. You kept going, reinforcing to her that you were the Prize and if she wanted you, well, she'd have to work for it.

"I was saying really nice things to these chicks, compliments that I never would have said before because I was afraid of being 'too nice.' Then I'd turn around and say something to completely undermine the compliment. I never would have done this before in fear that I'd look like a jerk."

Amen brother! You get it. Too many people are still stuck in the nice guy/jerk paradigm. Some think you have to act like a nice guy to attract women. Others think you have to behave like a jerk. Acting like a nice guy or a jerk, however, has nothing to do with attracting women.

Those not understanding the underlying mechanisms of generating attraction might misinterpret playful banter and effective flirting as mistreating a woman. But generating attraction in women is neither nice nor mean. How you use the attraction you've generated, however, has moral implications. My point - generating attraction in women, in and of itself, will make you neither a nice guy nor a jerk.

You also put to use two of my techniques for attracting women: Push/Pull and Tension Loops (If you do not know what Push/Pull or Tension Loops are, pop me an email and I'll send you some articles explaining these very powerful concepts. If you want a complete education on Push/Pull and Tension Loops, well then, you need to start reading my book).

"I tell you, your book has explained every damned question I've ever had about women, about friends who where good with girls, and about my own lameness. Thank you so much. It's almost scary to think of how good I'm going to be when I've re-read the book several times and mastered the techniques. I read it again today and saw several more things that I could have done even better."

I don't doubt for a second that you'll become amazing with women. You get it. Once again, good job.

Comment:

I like the e-book so far. I just want to mention that your explanation of meta-frames and how to be "the prize" is worth the price of the book alone.

This one hottie who was into me thought she'd throw in, "Oh, my friend here, yeah, she's my girlfriend, sorry," to which I replied, "Good, she can cook us breakfast in bed in the morning," She almost died of laughter, attraction exploded and she was puddy in my hands. So powerful. Love it. Just thought I'd let you know.

J from Denver

My Comments:

Glad you're getting a lot of use out of that line. This girl thought she'd throw you a curve ball and you threw it right back at her, establishing and maintaining that you're the Prize. Nice.

Question:

There is this girl I've fancied for ages and she also has two hot sisters and a friend! After reading some of your newsletters, I have put some of your strategies into action. Instead of gettingthe girl I fancy to feel attraction for me. I managed to get all four girls to feel huge attraction to me! How good is that? By asking open questions to one girl and flirting with one of the girls, I managed to get all the girls into competitive mode and succeeded in getting all of these girls to feel hugely attracted to me!

However, what do I do if the really really hot girl will not go out with me, because all the other girls also fancy and feel attracted to me?

If you could answer this question, then I would be more than grateful!

Thanks for your advice

K  Scotland

My Comments:

"After reading some of your newsletters, I have put some of your strategies into action. Instead of getting the girl I fancy to feel attraction for me. I managed to get all four girls to feel huge attraction to me! How good is that?"

You little pimp, you - good job!

"By asking open questions to one girl and flirting with one of the girls, I managed to get all the girls into competitive mode and succeeded in getting all of these girls to feel hugely attracted to me!"

Ah yes...the power of social proof. I should do a whole newsletter just on this topic.

"...what do I do if the really really hot girl will not go out with me, because all the other girls also fancy and feel attracted to me?"

Her friends wanting you can only increase your chances with the hot girl. I think Chris Rock put it best when he said: "When a man introduces his new girlfriend to his friend, when they walk away, his friend is like 'Wow, she's nice. I gotta get me a girl like that.' When a woman introduces her new man to her girlfriend, when they walk away, her girlfriend is like 'I gotta get me him! And I'll slit that bitch's throat to do it!'"

Question:

Hello Swinggcat,

I just singed up for your newsletter. I'm working on the tension loop exercise, and I've seemed to hit a wall more or less. The example you gave was great, and I came up with two of my own.

Accuse a woman of not being able to dance, and if she responds that she can say, "Well let's go" (onto the dance floor) Opportunity to get a dance, tease her and NOT grind all over her like she probably thinks you will. After one or two songs, end the dance and say..."Hmmm, you proved me wrong. You get an A for effort...but really, you do need to work on a few steps"

2nd one -  "I don't know about you...I like a woman that can cook..." She responds that she can, etc etc .. Respond with..."oh yeah, so what's your specialty?"If she responds by telling you her specialty say, "maybe you do have some cooking skills...but can you clean too?"

Can you let me know if these are on target or not?  I'm having a hard time thinking of other subjects to create tension loops out of. Thanks.

Oh...I'll be purchasing your book this Friday (payday)

Thanks

M from Maryland

My Comments:

Just for a review: a tension loop is when you do something to create unresolved emotional tension inside a woman, increase it, release it by bringing closure to it, and then spark it all over again. This will keep her feeling the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.

Get my book. There are heaps of examples in there. You'll have a good understanding of how to use these techniques once you've read through it.

Your first example of a tension loop isn't bad. I like it. I might try: "Wow, you're more adventurous than I thought. You get an A- and...you have permission to take me out dancing sometime."

Read what I just wrote a few times. There's a lot of power psychology in there.

I published something very similar to your second example a few years back. So, of course, I like it.

You might want to make it a bit stronger by asking her what her specialty is and if it really is something you like say: "Mm...I love that. You have permission to cook it for me."

Question:

I have read through your advice. I subscribed and am receiving your newsletters. The latest news letter I got
from you this morning portrayed my encounter with a girl. I approached this girl last year.  I opened a conversation
with her and she responded, but when I asked her if she loves me, she held her word for a while, and after 2 minutes told me that she would give me the reply later. Till date she has not given me the answer whether she loves me or not. She comes to my house if I invite her and accepts my hugs but will not let me kiss her. I don't know what to do, please help.

P. from Washington

My Comments:

Sounds like she's the one who's been receiving my newsletters. Are you sure she hasn't read my book? I'm going to go out on a limb and guess she feels no attraction toward you because...

You're acting needy and desperate, and thinking way too much about her feelings toward you. You're brooding about her not loving you. And fretting over why she won't kiss you back. You're dwelling on how to win her over. Right?

"How do you know this?" you might be asking yourself. Because I've been in this situation about a billion times.

Situations where women feel attraction toward men who are short or bald or fat or old or poor...or whatever, are abound.

I'd really have to rack my brain, though, to think of even one case of a woman feeling attraction toward a needy and
desperate man.

Women feel attraction toward men who believe and act and establish themselves as the Prize.

Word of caution: Letting your belief that you are the Prize hinge on that one special girl feeling attraction toward you is worse than tying a noose around your neck and hanging yourself. You're, unknowingly, decreeing her as master of your desires, tribunal of your worth, and the Goddess of your reality. By putting this much value on her, my friend, you're depending on her to validate and confirm your beliefs about what is possible. All of this is very sweet and endearing and romantic. But you're serving her your proverbial balls on a platter. Women are repulsed by men who do this because...

It demonstrates that they are insecure and needy lost little lambs, looking for a leader to tell them what to do, what to feel, and what to believe.

When you look to others to confirm and validate your reality it communicates, you don't have a reality.

Get your own reality. Then, if you want to attract women like a rock star, develop the confidence and balls to suck others into your reality. They'll appreciate and love you more for it.

Ninety-eight percent of the books on dating and attracting women are chock full of skills for getting women to accept you in their reality. Developing these skills, alas, will repel women faster than the stench of poo and halitosis combined. Inside my book I'll step-by-step teach you how to develop an iron cast reality, and cultivate the skills, confidence and balls you need for sucking women right into your reality...leaving them no choice but to want and reach and chase for more of you. Just think what it will be like to finally have the skills and confidence to plop your butt in the driver's seat while interacting with women, giving you the power and choice to take your interactions with them in the direction you want. Start getting this area of your life taken care of right now by downloading my book.

Real World Seduction

Your Loyal Dating Coach,

Swinggcat

"Dr. Attraction"

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