Heretical Realities

By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction

Question:

"Hey Swinggcat,

Great book man! Your book as well as your tips have really boosted my success with women. Just in the past 3 days, I have slept with 2 different girls; plus I am working on about 5 others. The key is, like you say, to be the prize! My phone is ringing off the hook because I am not calling these girls and they are wondering what I am doing lol Then instead of planning a night out, I just call them at around 8pm and ask if they want to chill. They always say yes and I go there for sex. The whole time there I am using open loops and undermining compliments and they respond with "Hey, stop!" and "you're mean!" but the thing is they're smiling the whole time!

OK here is my question. Even though I have some girls on the side right now, I have some new girls too. Sometimes we go to dinner andI end up paying the bill cause I know its sort of screwed up to tell them they're paying (although I did try this the other night and she paid half the bill!) But I know I can't keep doing this. I find I am paying $40 bills for dinner a few times a week. I am not resenting it cuz I make decent money but what are some ways I can avoid paying the whole bill, still go to dinner, and not seem like a cheapskate. I sense this vibe that if I tell them they're to pay the bill, then they wont be as into sex later that night. Thanks for your help Swinggcat. Peace out."

-A from Sherman Oaks

My Comments:

You're well on your way to becoming a professional man ho. In all seriousness it seems that you've really internalized a lot of the ideas from my book. They've become a part of You are and, as a result, you're reaping the rewards. Good job.

"The whole time there I am using open loops and undermining compliments and they respond with "Hey, stop!" and 'you're mean!' but the thing is they're smiling the whole time!"

Open loops and undermining compliments work because they build sexual tension, compelling women to want and reach and chase for more of You (If you don't know about these concepts or want a world class education giving You the skills to successfully use these concepts with the women you desire, get your hands on a copy of my manual, Real World Seduction).

Despite what women might tell you, there aren't any consequences to making a woman foot half the bill. Once in a long while this request will turn a woman from a giggly little girl into a fascist ice queen. If this happens you know that she's either a gold digger or a psycho belonging in a loony bin. My advice: Run Forest, run.

Healthy women Don't expect You to be their human ATM machine. Shelling out your hard earned moolah will generate zero attraction in women.

But paying for a woman won't lessen her attraction toward You. As long as She doesn't interpret Your generosity as an attempt to get her to like you, you're fine.

Yet anytime you get that icky feeling inside your gut, squawking, "If you don't pay she's NOT going to like You," ignore it. Avoid it like the plague. Send it off to some leper colony. Shunt it out of your reality.

Because: If you keep listening to your gut and give in to his bad advice, the woman will know why you're paying for her meal and interpret your kind gesture as an attempt to get her validation and approval. "How in the world do women pick up on this? Are females endowed with psychic abilities giving them the power to know what we're thinking at all times?" you might be asking yourself.

Most women, as far as I know, possess no uncanny, psychic abilities. They don't need to. When a man does something to get a woman's validation she hears it in his words and the tone of his voice; sees it in his body language, actions...and so on. The words "I'm A Validation Hungry Little Puppy Dog" are practically scrawled across his forehead in permanent red ink.

"So what, if I'm a validation hungry little puppy dog?" you might argue.

Women, my friend, feel no attraction toward men seeking their validation. Female friends of mine have confirmed this. They've told me stories about wanting to sleep with a guy up until he started acting like an approval seeking puppy dog. It was like, they said, the guy picked up the attraction she felt by its lapels, plopped its ass on an electric chair, and fried it to cinders.

This is because women only feel attraction toward men they respond to as the Prize. If you're going to bars clothed in exotic wrapping paper with a pink bow tied around your head, you're missing my point.

Attraction is not how a woman judges you. It is, instead, emotionally compelling a woman to respond to YOU as a Prize. Think of it as an emotional vacuum, sucking her into YOU, making her uncontrollably want and reach and chase for more of YOU. The art of doing this is what call "Prizing."

But you can only Prize a woman if you have Prizability - if you've established yourself to her as the Prize. "How do I know I have Prizability? How do I know I have established to a woman that I'm the Prize?" you might be asking yourself.

When she buys into the reality that YOU walking away from her or not validating her or not making a sexual pass at her or not paying attention to her...and so on would be a loss for her, you have Prizability.

Forewarning: You don't need to have so much Prizability that a woman would slit her wrists if you, for example, DIDN'T validate her. Less is more. Just a weensy bit of Prizability is all you need to start Prizing her: To begin creating an emotional vacuum, compelling her to want and reach and chase for more of You.

Even having good looks and lots of money DOESN'T guarantee you'll have Prizability with a woman.

A more efficient way of ESTABLISHING yourself as the Prize with women is learning how to define and keep in control of what I call the "Meta-Frame" - the underlying meaning of your interaction with a woman.

In all male-female interactions there's a Meta-Frame that's defined. If you want to be successful with women you need to proactively define the Meta-Frame as you being the Prize she's trying to win over.

Most men, unknowingly, let women define and stay in control of the Meta-Frame. They let women take the driver's seat. Many a man, for example, thinks he needs to pass a woman's tests and successfully jump through all her hoops before she'll feel attraction toward him or sleep with him.

Letting women, in my experience, define and stay in control of the Meta-Frame is a huge mistake because nine times out of ten, to horror of your horny penis, women will define it as them being the Prize you are trying to win over, resulting in them feeling NO attraction toward YOU.

Think back to some of your past interactions with women. Were you the Prize or were they?

Maybe you've had interactions where you were the Prize but for the life you, you don't know how to emulate those results with other women.

Maybe you started off as the Prize with a woman but as time moved on you lost control and she became the Prize.

I dunno?

I've had all of these scenarios happen to me. I can remember feeling frustrated. I wanted to have control of the Meta-Frame but just didn't know how.

After lots of experimenting and testing I've come up with a four step method, giving YOU the power to define and a stay in control of the Meta-Frame that you're the Prize.

Inside my course you'll discover the exact steps for defining and staying in control of Meta-Frame that you're the Prize women want to win over.

Once you start using my four step method you'll see and feel an immediate difference in your interactions with women. This is Jedi mind level technology that will put your current success with women on steroids.

Take your success with women to a new level by getting yourself a copy of my Real World Seduction Guide right now.

Seconds after your order is processed you'll get to crawl inside my book and watch me guide you through, in excruciating detail, my easy master four step method for defining and staying in control of the meta-frame that YOU are the Prize women are trying to win over.

That means, if you're motivated, in as little as nineteen minutes from now you'll start seeing improvements in your interactions with women.

Just think how much success you'll have after using the Meta-Frame for a month. Get yourself a copy right now. You'll be glad you did.

Real World Seduction

Your Loyal Dating Coach,

Swinggcat

"Dr. Attraction"

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